I do it well
I do it well
I am bipolar 1.
I was hospitalized when I was 18 during a manic episode in which I knew something was wrong, I just didn’t know what it was. I was scared, yet elated. I had extreme euphoria, I had not slept for days, I was constantly irritable, I spent everything I had and more. That’s all the details I’m going to discuss. It took years to understand what was wrong with me.
It was hard to accept that I had been diagnosed with an incurable mood disorder. I am glad that Bipolar Disorder and other mental health conditions can be treated by medication and a good support system. It took me a long time to get to the point to where I am now, stable and in control of my life.
Enough about me though. I don’t want to share the entire story. It’s long.
The mental health community includes some of the strongest people you will ever meet. We are extremely empathetic and compassionate. We ask that you take into consideration that we have a disability. Unfortunately it’s a disability that you can’t see. It’s very real, it’s hard to talk about without feeling judged which is just sad. I’ve been advocating for mental health for a reason. Better healthcare is needed for those who suffer, many suffer in silence because of the stigma they attach to themselves because they are ashamed of what society deems them to be.
We aren’t to blame for mass shootings. That. Is. So. Painful.
We struggle but we are strong as hell, we fight everyday to live meaningful lives, we are artists and free thinkers. We are humanitarians by nature because we know what it is like to feel pain. We advocate for ourselves in order to be seen as equal society members. We are not less than anyone else.
Just keep that in mind.
I have green hair because I like it, also because it is the color of the mental health awareness ribbon.
I haven’t been doing that much. I’m stuck in a rut that has gone on too long. I’m going to start therapy again, I have to at this point. I just turned 30, and I feel like I am nothing more than a “professional patient”. I finally realized that medication alone is not going to work on my issues, and there are some major stressors that I have no control over.
As for not being able to work at all, I’ve decided to try again for disability benefits with the help of a lawyer, as I can’t seem hold down a job due to any stress whatsoever.
I’ve started to become afraid of what the future holds for me because I’ve become pretty unstable. I do not enjoy feeling stuck in a situation without a clear goal. I also routinely question why can’t I just live my life for once without any outside and unnecessary stress whatsoever?
It has become constant. I don’t blame this all on having Bipolar Disorder. I chalk it up to losing my self confidence because I just don’t know what to do. This “rut” just seems to be overly complicated, with the fear of not knowing how to get out of it. I usually have a plan of action to step out of this mindset and move on. Life isn’t allowing me to do so financially.
The problem is that I am 30 years old with no clear path to any success, and it’s my fault. I blew it when I dropped out of college four times and just accumulated student loan debt on top of my treatment costs. This has become my life’s focus and it really upsets me that I literally can’t afford to live the life I have wanted for myself. I receive money from my family and fiancé to cover bills at home and food.
I can’t take care of myself, and without their help, my situation would be definitive. I’m only applying for disability again because of the guilt that I have when I am receiving income from my family. I want to be independent. I wish to be independent so bad.
It’s hard having to ask for help, and then have to deal with ultimatums, guilt tripping over any spending whatsoever and even more added stress on top of it. I cringe at the thought of even writing about it at this time.
I am lost. I hope therapy helps me, I hope I will qualify for disability this time with legal advice just so I can have some peace. I’m tired of seemingly letting everyone down. I am letting them down due to needing money. I am letting myself down for allowing myself to be disrespected constantly over the issue. My health insurance is expensive, due to the change of insurance over the past few years. It is outrageously expensive. My doctors copays have skyrocketed and my medications probably average around $100 a month. I had a very affordable bill for health insurance for a very long time and it didn’t double, it tripled even going down to a lower tier. Thank you to the government for this, I am paying way more than anyone should have to, especially with having a chronic illness.
My life revolves around money that I don’t currently have and not having anything to support myself independently. I am grateful for help, but I am stressed and hurt that I am dependent on income from family members who are just tired of it, seemingly due to the reality that they just want me to be independent and cover all my costs because they can’t and won’t help me forever. Just more and more added stress. I don’t blame them though. My life is expensive because I am chronically ill.
Household bills on top of my medical treatment is impossible for me to do. I imagine it would be impossible for anyone to do and if they could they would still be miserable. I can’t do anything fun. I do not have the extra money to do anything at all. I can’t hangout with friends without having any shame as to what my life is like at this point. I’m not self sufficient. My social life has disappeared. Once a stress outlet, is now gone.
I believe something has got to give. I can’t ask for help anymore and I can feel the resentment in them for feeling obligated to help. As much as I appreciate all of the help, I do not deserve to be badgered as to why I can’t just do what “normal people do” I am sick for the rest of my life with Bipolar 1 and I am tired of feeling disrespected and hurt for needing help because of it.
I was dealt this hand and I will make it through this hardship because if I don’t, I’ll be homeless and unmedicated. I can’t do this by myself, so social security is my best bet yet again.
This is what I have been dealing with for months and I just feel so small now. I need to start standing up for myself. I’ve never been good at that either.
I want to share my personal experience of what happened when I was Diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder at 18, and how much I struggled with what this illness would have in store for me while left untreated, ultimately destroying a big chunk of my youth. I just didn’t comply or believe it for a very long time until I spun completely out of control. So this is the story of my stubborn youth, which is putting it lightly.
In my late teens and early twenties, before I was properly medicated, let alone taking my diagnosis seriously, I honestly thought I was God’s gift to everyone. I would just party for days and would do all kinds of drugs because it felt so great and I just thought it was what we all did in college, I really thought I would be ok after taking molly and ecstasy for a month straight. When I wasn’t doing drugs to get high out of my mind, I was at least at the club 3 times a week until 3am getting wasted and belligerent.
I literally hated being alone and I wanted to do things all the time. Anything. I had to be out of the house doing something that was fun, yet destructive. I used to have a lot of one night stands, way too many of them. I can’t even remember their names, or if I even asked what their names were because I probably didn’t care anyways, because I was just using them for sex. I put myself in incredibly dangerous situations. One time after leaving a bar with a “friend” I blacked out and woke up face down on the side of the road, very far away from where I was. I went to jail for a horrible DUI and again for Domestic Battery due to hitting an ex boyfriend, who was a drug addict. I have a criminal record. I honestly believe that my early 20s was just one gigantic manic episode on top of me being an extremely naive and selfish girl.
I became less symptomatic the older I got, mainly because my friends started getting jobs and were starting families like normal people. Yet I still felt the need to be doing something stimulating all the time, I didn’t care about my future. I just wanted to live fast. I experimented with drugs I don’t want to mention just because I wanted to know what they felt like, just for the fun of it, I have tried just about everything. I wanted to feel everything and nothing at the same time. I finally went to rehab, not once but twice because I wanted to get clean, my life was unmanageable and I was in a toxic relationship with someone who abused narcotic pain medications which didn’t help.
I lost my father suddenly when I was 26. He was killed in a plane crash and it was absolutely devastating. I still miss him every single day. At the same time I found out my then boyfriend was cheating on me, obviously lying about it, and on top of it he showed complete disregard and disrespect for the loss of my dad which was the final straw. I will never forgive that heartless boy for adding salt to my wounds. This tremendous grief triggered the heaviest downward spiral and lasted for about a year and a half.
I isolated myself from everyone, even my mother, who just lost her husband and needed her daughters. I felt bad, guilty and dirty for my past. I stayed home and played video games at my house and did nothing else. I lost all of my friends because I never kept in touch anymore and I just wanted to be alone. I lost so much weight because I was never hungry and food tasted like nothing. I looked sick, I only weighed 95 lbs, which is the smallest I have ever been. I smoked packs of cigarettes for hours on the back porch, I was mostly alone and I was also heavily smoking weed to numb the pain. I cried and just wished I could trade my dad’s death for my own because I felt I deserved to die, not him. My dad was my idol and he was there when I needed him, when no one else wanted to help me, he pushed me to do better. Losing him was the worst pain I have ever felt.
I continued to beat myself up. I hated myself, the person I was, the emptiness and loneliness I felt and I wanted to disappear. I thought about dying a lot and at one point really thought about taking my life. I stopped feeling that way real quick because I thought about what that would do to my mom and how selfish I was. I wanted and needed to be a better daughter to my mom and a better sister to my younger sister. We all needed each other. My mom and I began to speak more openly and we started having adult conversations for the first time. I was used to being treated like a child before that because it was honestly how I acted, like a child. I now have a strong relationship with her. I quit smoking weed and I stopped drinking immediately. I was done covering up my illness with drugs and alcohol because I began to understand the true nature of this disorder, and how self medicating is the worse thing I could possibly be doing.
When I was around 27 or 28 I really grew up fast and started to kick into gear hard because the past me was never going to show up again. Something just clicked and I started to take mental illness seriously and I wanted to be a better person. I started seeing a new psychiatrist who I am completely honest with, and I am now on the right medications, and taking them as prescribed because that is part of my treatment and stability. I’m a completely different person. I care, I love, I don’t use drugs and alcohol to cope. I have a wonderful relationship with my family and my fiance. I am stable and happy and I am continuing to flourish and I am growing stronger every day. I try not to regret the past because in all honesty, this is what made me grow up and helped heal me. Today, I try and help others who battle mental illness because I know how much it hurts, I have felt it to its core. My past has caused me to become an advocate and a strong believer that Bipolar Disorder does not define a person, and stability is maintainable. I will never stop fighting for myself and for others who battle this because it can be extremely difficult without support.
I hope this sends a positive message. This is not a post asking for pity. I wrote this because this time in my life was how I became strong, how I saved my life and how I got better. This is what happened when I didn’t know what was happening to me and Bipolar Disorder caused that much hardship left untreated and ignored. I take my life seriously now, and I never take anything for granted because I am lucky to be here, and I am well now.
I am truly thankful for everyone in my life, and everything that I have gone through which has led me to be the person I am today. It has never been easy to live with a mental illness, but I know how to do it now. Somewhat comfortably.
We need to end the stigma toward mental illness.
This is for all who suffer with a mental disorder.
Do not give up fighting and stay strong because you are stronger than you think.
Sometimes it will bring you down, if you allow it, but your tenacity and courage will pull you through your doubts. Your support system(s) will always be there for you. Your mental health means doing what’s best for you, no matter what anyone has to say. You live for yourself, no one else.
Live a peaceful and stress free life. You do not have to burden yourself by going along with society’s standards because it’s what is expected. Some of us just can’t. We get judged, but you know what? They have no idea what it is like to fight so hard every day just to lead a happy and semi normal life. We are “mind warriors.” We are empathetic and caring.
Life is wonderful, remember that and live exactly how you want without allowing yourself to be victimized by the stigma towards mental disorders. Look the other way.
I would like to help people understand what mental illness does to those who suffer. First of all, it is not a walk in the park. It is not something we can just change at the snap of a finger. We hold jobs we cannot keep, leaving gaps in employment, making it difficult to move on to the next job. We struggle with irrational fears and episodes of mania and depression that I cannot even begin to describe.
The struggle is real, but I also believe in my heart that it makes us some of the strongest individuals in the world because we never give up hope. This is a disorder for life, and we know it will never go away.
This is only half of the battle. The rest is telling ourselves to move forward even if it’s the smallest steps. Setting even the tiniest goals saves our lives, so the next time you feel like we are lazy or bums, take a look at the big picture.
We look at the big picture, which is stability and happiness in our lives. We must be kind to ourselves and stop biting off more we can chew because society deems it so that in order to be a contributing member of society, one must have the steady job, the house payments, bills and car payments, raising a family and having good social lives.
Most of us are happy and lucky enough just getting out of bed in the morning and managing some form of self-care and that is good enough for us.
Be kind to yourselves.
This is heavy and personal. I think I’m just having one of those days but here it is.
Today when I woke up I thought a lot about my life. When I Say that, I really mean it. I had a full-blown existential crisis. I don’t know what I’m supposed to be doing anymore. This illness has become something that pisses me off to no end, it holds me back no matter what I do, one step forward three giant leaps backwards, you know. All of that. I started to think about everything that has led up to where I am right now. Where did I go wrong? I am supposed to be strong, right? I know I am doing my best, but in this “strength”, especially with understanding how detrimental this disorder can be, I have begun to walk on eggshells around myself, because I hate that I am basically a shell of who I should be. I am broken. I broke my own heart.
I am disgusted by the burned bridges, mistrust, deceit and lack of self-control I have left behind me. I am Bipolar, but that does not make up for the inexcusable things that I have done to my family, friends and to the many failed attempts at doing something with my life I’ve had. I don’t know where to turn sometimes. I just want to run but my legs can’t move. My mind has no problem running laps, however.
I despise the person that I was only 3-10 years ago. I’m not asking for pity, I’m just explaining how it is. I feel this way all of the time now. I feel like I had so many chances to do the right thing and I failed. I let down my family and most importantly myself. I have no other choice but to keep fighting though! Is that all my life will be? Just battling every single day? I can’t even have a normal conversation with my mother without wanting to break down in front of her and no, she does not need that added grief. My mom is my saving grace, if it weren’t for her, I would be homeless or dead. My mother deserves everything that is wonderful in the world. I just wish I could talk to her as a confident adult right now. This makes me sad.
Is that why I always want to cry when I see her? Do I feel guilty for my life? I think I do feel guilty. I wish I didn’t, but I also wish I wasn’t Bipolar, which would have kept me from being such a train wreck to begin with. I was so young when I did all of those horrible things, yet I can’t move on from the damage I have caused everyone who loves me. I am an outcast due to my own actions. I will never be treated the way I want to be treated because look at how I treated them. It is not fair to them. I don’t blame them at all, I was a timebomb, perhaps still ticking.
I was selfish, careless and misunderstood and now I just feel alone and selfish for being misunderstood. I’m teetering on being just “okay” to literally breaking down from all of the emptiness that consumes me when I think about all the pain I have caused. I’m suffering, yet I have caused so many others to suffer because of this monster. Not a day goes by when I don’t think about what I could have or should have done differently, and not a day goes by where I don’t think about how much better my life would be if I just knew back then what I know now.
Unfortunately, “YOLO” and I can’t erase the past and there are no do overs. I am almost 30 and I am panicking. I have grown and learned from my past, but I haven’t made any great strides from it either. This is the most intense I’ve ever felt living with this and it hurts me and I feel guilty for feeling hurt because I’ve affected people in terrible ways.
I am at an impasse. I am strong and I have to carry on, but I cannot forgive myself for the s**t I don’t like to remember when I was so sick and unmanageable. So right now, I am very uncomfortable with myself for the first time in a long while. I just hope I get it together soon.
We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.
— Albert Einstein
My fallacy in believing in my childish excuses was merely adding stress.
I have failed and been disappointed many times, but it led to my success.
I have succumbed to risky conduct and I almost lost my life.
I learned lessons and compassion, no longer carrying strife.
My life was in shambles, now I perceiver.
I lied to everyone I knew, now I’m sincere.
I apologize to the loved ones I’ve directly wronged.
If I stayed ignorant, the pain would have prolonged.
My moral compass has changed, my support system has prevailed.
If it were not for them, I would remain derailed.
I was hopeless and lifeless, that mind numbing sting.
I am now genuinely inspired by people, places and things.
I found something truly to be passionate about.
That passion is something I will never live without.
I will die continuously fighting a hateful stigma.
I will die being a compassionate soul.
I will die assisting others find their way.
I will die spreading the message of mental health importance.
I will die knowing I survived it.
I will die knowing that I always tried.
I will die fighting my own villain.
I will die knowing I stayed faithful.
I will die knowing I was honest.
“Bipolar I Disorder is an illness in which people have experienced one or more episodes of mania. Most people diagnosed with bipolar I will have episodes of both mania and depression, though an episode of depression is not necessary for a diagnosis. To be diagnosed with bipolar I, a person’s manic episodes must last at least seven days or be so severe that hospitalization is required.”
“People with bipolar disorder can also experience:
People with bipolar disorder and psychotic symptoms can be wrongly diagnosed with schizophrenia. Bipolar disorder can also be misdiagnosed as Borderline Personality Disorder, BPD.
These other illnesses and misdiagnoses can make it hard to treat bipolar disorder. For example, the antidepressants used to treat OCD and the stimulants used to treat ADHD may worsen symptoms of bipolar disorder and may even trigger a manic episode. If you have more than one condition (called co-occurring disorders), be sure to get a treatment plan that works for you.”
See Bipolar Disorder